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gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge, but
the mouth of the fool gushes folly.
Proverbs 15:1-2
Look in the mirror and practice saying, "Is that what you think?" about eighty times. Then when someone says something incredibly inflammatory to you, you will be ready to answer and walk away to cool off.
No gasoline, no fire, no satisfaction for tormentors.